The victim triangle (aka drama triangle) helped me come to terms with what had happened. In my desire to help (rescue) her, I hooked myself into her drama. While I started out as the rescuer, her swift natural reaction was to punish (persecute) me. Suddenly, I was the victim — which is the tragedy of becoming hooked into this dysfunctional dynamic. *“No matter where we may start out on the triangle, victim is where we end up….” (Lynn Forest)
When I was able to see and accept my part in our dysfunctional relationship, I could begin to extract myself mentally, emotionally and spiritually. A hard climb, but worth it. Simply stated, the more I resist the impulse to rescue others, the stronger they become and the more healthy our relationship will be.
In response to The Daily Post’s weekly photo challenge: “Boundaries.”
I highly recommend this article to those who want to learn more about the victim triangle: * http://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/